Choices made are best for me, but may not be for others

By Macaela Bennett

Lesson Plan Guide

Sometimes decisions don’t make sense when you try to explain them to other people, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re wrong.

After graduating high school, I enrolled in the largest college in the nation, Arizona State University. I chose to attend college, as opposed to other post-graduation options because I have a passion for learning, and I chose ASU because it has one of the best journalism programs in the nation.

I know most students avoid the question “What do you want to do when you grow up?” because they have no idea, but I hate being asked because I do know, and people question it. I want to be a journalist.

Trust me, I know journalism is considered a dying field and that most reporters don’t make any money, but that doesn’t discourage me from working my hardest to pursue my goal.

Big decisions on college, career and marriage

A month before my freshman year of college, I changed my mind about ASU and decided to attend a small, liberal arts college in Michigan called Hillsdale. There are few, if any, similarities between these two schools. A lot of people I respected questioned my decision and asked for my reasoning, but they couldn’t understand it. Regardless, I now consider attending Hillsdale College one of the best decisions I have ever made.

The summer after my freshmen year of college I was offered jobs writing for two different publications in Washington, D.C. A lot of people said I should have chosen the publication I did not, but I now see I made the best decision for me.

When my boyfriend, Tyler, came to visit me in D.C., he proposed on the steps of the Jefferson Monument, and now I’m in the middle of planning a wedding. Because I’m a 19-year-old student, many people naturally question my choices. Many of these people care deeply about me and only want what’s best for me, yet it’s frustrating having to constantly justify my decisions.

I am a very analytical person; thus, I have many reasons for making my decisions to be a journalist, attend Hillsdale, take the job in D.C., and tell my boyfriend, now fiancé, yes.

Throughout all of these decisions, my father has encouraged and supported me. I have always highly regarded his advice, and it means a lot to me that he gave Tyler his blessing for our marriage. At the end of the day, my dad understood that every choice I’ve made was the best decision for me. The reason many others questioned me is because it is not what would have been best for them.

Consider advice from your inner circle

When you’re considering post-graduation options and any life decision, resist the temptation to look at what everyone else is doing and instead reflect on who you are and what is best for you.

Then, consult the people who know you best, like your parents or other mentors, and consider their wise advice -- they will often have experiences that can help you.

But when you have to sit down and decide whether or not to enlist in the military, or attend a college, or accept a job offer, remember that the best decision is what’s best for you, and you know yourself better than anyone else. Finally, once you have chosen a path that is the best option to help you accomplish your dreams, don’t allow others’ doubts to discourage you.

Thus far, I don’t regret any of my major life decisions, and I hope you are blessed with the same feeling of fulfillment with your post-graduation choices as well.

About the Author

Macaela Bennett

Macaela Bennett

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